[Guide] Why do you always fail to masturbate? Maybe you didn't use the right vibrator

Preface

Many people think that the matter of masturbation can go smoothly as long as there are tools and urges, but the actual situation is often not so simple.

Vibrators bought a lot, tried a variety of positions and intensity, but always feel almost interesting, and even the orgasm is difficult to touch.

This is not a case, but a lot of people in the exploration of self will encounter problems, if you also encounter a similar situation, may wish to continue to read, may be able to find the solution.

Is the physical and psychological condition normal?

First of all, let's make one thing clear: the essence of masturbation is a collaborative movement between the body and the psyche.

Even if the technology is good and the tools are advanced, if the body or the psychological state is not good, it is difficult to get real pleasure.

When the body is not in good condition

For example, colds, excessive fatigue, late nights, stress, etc.

At this time, even if you use the best vibrator, it is difficult for your body to cooperate with you to produce pleasure.

If you often feel tired and poor in spirit recently, the poor masturbation effect may not be the problem of the vibrator, but your body is reminding you that it's time to rest.

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Psychological or mental states also have a big impact

Some psychological or mental illnesses, such as depression, can have a direct impact on libido and sexual pleasure.

To complicate matters, the side effects of some medications themselves can also affect the sexual response, making it difficult to orgasm when you have the urge to have sex.

If you are in treatment for a mental illness, it is normal to have difficulty masturbating.

Don't beat yourself up at this time; the most important thing is to co-operate with treatment and put your health concerns first.

The technical aspect is also crucial

Many friends who are uncomfortable with masturbation are actually not technically mature enough.

Especially newbies who have just started using vibrators are prone to the following problems:

Choosing the wrong adult film or source of stimulation

Many people are used to masturbating along with adult films, but if you choose content that is not to your taste, it can instead affect your mood and cause a disconnect between your body and mind.

Inappropriate masturbation techniques and positions

Masturbating in the wrong position can make pleasure intermittent;

An inappropriate rhythm of masturbation movements can also affect the arrival of orgasm.

There are a lot of masturbation techniques shared online, especially anonymously on forums and social platforms, so you can refer to them and try what works for you, and we'll follow up with updates on them;

The intensity of vibration is not adjusted properly

Frequency is too weak: not enough stimulation, slow build-up of pleasure

You can try to increase the intensity of vibration by one level or lengthen the stimulation time to let your body experience it slowly.

Frequency is too strong: more than you can handle, you only feel pain.

Strong stimulation does not equal high pleasure. If the stimulation is too strong, the body may enter a ‘protective mechanism’ that shuts down the orgasmic response, or even numbness and pain.

We have to find a suitable range of intensity, do not blindly pursue high intensity.

Lack of security

After all, masturbation is a very private behaviour, if the environment makes people uncomfortable, it is difficult to enter the state.

For example, some people fail to masturbate when they change rooms, and some people can't relax for fear of being overheard.

Before masturbation, make sure that your environment is quiet, private, will not be disturbed, so that the body feels ‘can feel at ease masturbation’, pleasure is more likely to occur.

Is a vibrator really right for you?

If you're physically and mentally fine, and your technique is fine, but you still don't feel pleasure, then it may be that the vibrator itself isn't right for you.

There are many functions of vibrators on the market: vibrating, sucking, pulsing, kneading, rotating and so on.

Each type of stimulation, the role of the body is completely different, and even the same function, different shapes of vibrators will bring a completely different experience.

For example:

• Sucking is not necessarily stronger than vibrating, but it is suitable for sensitive areas;
• A long bar is not necessarily worse than a compact one, but the range of stimulation is different;
• Some dual-function (in vivo + out of vivo) vibrators may not be the right shape, but may affect pleasure instead.

When replacing a vibrator, try to choose a model that is significantly different in function or shape from the old one, so that the experience won't be a repeat of stepping on the mine.

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Are you really ready for pleasure?

It sounds a bit metaphysical, but it does exist.

Many people want pleasure on the surface, but deep down they still have a sense of shame or a psychological burden about sex.

For example, some people will subconsciously think that ‘masturbation is shameful’, or ‘orgasm is immoral’, so even if the body feels the stimulation, the brain is ‘refusing’ to accept the pleasure.

This state is called ‘sexual shame’ or ‘internal resistance’.

What can be done about it?

This is not a problem that can be solved in a short period of time.

However, you can try to start by ‘accepting your sexual needs’ and gradually let go of your inner tension and resistance.

You can:

• Read more healthy and scientific content about sex;
• Discuss sexual topics with trusted friends;
• Set up a safe and comfortable space for masturbation;
• Stop denying or feeling guilty about your masturbation behaviour.

When you really break this psychological defence, pleasure will naturally follow.

Summary

Everyone's body is unique, and masturbation shouldn't be a flow of actions under a uniform template; whether it's the physical state, the mental preparation, or the tools and environment used, it all affects the final experience.

I hope this article has helped you find your own rhythm, and that you get real satisfaction out of it, rather than the feeling that you're barely coping.

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